One of the most powerful weapons you can use to hurt your former spouse, is your children. Sadly, many parents cause their children permanent damage this way, by ignoring the laws that require us to keep our divorces away from the children. Some parents actually bring their young children into the court, manipulating them into thinking they are giving the children "responsibility" to make adult decisions. This horrible abuse feels both wrong and right to them: On the one hand, they always want to be treated like an adult. This pretende to give them the chance to do that. But, they don't give the child the understanding of the adult consequences of their decisions. These children are set up for failure, and they feel horrible about it. They do NOT want to spy on daddy or mommy. They do NOT want to ask mommy or daddy for money, or hear you cry when the money is late. They do NOT want to proof read your visitation coordination messages.
The video below is very powerful. A boy from Argentina had his father erased, and his life destroyed. Shown with English subtitles.